Single Truths: Rewriting What It Means to Be Single

I’m Lexy Truth, I’m damn near 22 years old, and I’ve never been in a romantic relationship (unless we want to count the love triangle I was in during kindergarten — which I don’t).

I’m what they call chronically single. 

And if you would’ve asked 7-year-old me how many boyfriends she would’ve had by now, my sassy attitude-y self would’ve replied, “Over 100.”

Of course this diva would say that.

But that’s not my reality — and that’s OK. I’ve spent a good chunk of my teenage years, and even young adulthood, being embarrassed that I’ve always been single.

I thought other people were silently judging me, that maybe they were thinking I was ugly or less worthy than others.

But that isn’t true. Those are lies I told myself to keep indulging in my embarrassment, to keep relishing in frustration.

Those weren’t thoughts people had about me and even if they were, WHY SHOULD I CARE? What’s sad is during those years, I could’ve been building my self esteem up, instead of continuously tearing myself down.

And I’m not here to place blame elsewhere, but it doesn’t help that I live in Utah and most of my friends are either married or on the brink of getting engaged (here’s your official reminder I’m only 21). There’s a cultural and social factor in Utah that people get married SO young. So, I’ve always felt behind, like I got lost somewhere on the train everyone was on.

I never realized there were other people who had ALSO never been in relationships until I got to college — where I met other single women who feel the same frustration I do. 

After having conversations for the first time in my life about how embarrassed I felt and how I kept wondering, “What’s wrong with me?” I came to the stark realization that I’m not alone — I’m not the only woman who’s experienced chronic singleness. 

And that’s why I’m starting this blog. I want, no, I NEED other women to know being chronically single is NOT embarrassing. Whether you’ve had other people tell you it is or you’ve told yourself, I’m here to say IT’S NOT EMBARRASSING (had to say it louder for the people in the back).

I want Single Truths to be a community where women feel welcomed. I want you to feel seen and heard. I want to disperse those ugly lies we’ve been telling ourselves. 

I want Single Truths to be somewhere you look for confidence and for encouragement to be comfortable in your singleness. 

And for those who are in romantic relationships, I want you to understand your single friends better, and realize a lot of the time they need your support — because you’re who they have. You have a partner, but your single friends have YOU. 

Not only will I be writing about my own experiences and liberating thoughts, but I’ll bring in expert sources to talk about Utah dating culture, and how COVID-19 altered our growth and development. 

So, as I’m introducing Single Truths to the world on the eve of my 22nd birthday, (currently cuing “Landslide” for my annual birthday cry), I want this space to serve as a reminder that singleness isn’t a flaw — it’s a fact of life, and a beautiful one at that. 

This is Single Truths: honest, credible conversations and unapologetic perspectives. Because if there’s one truth I’ve learned, it’s that your worth is never measured by your relationship status. 

That’s why I’m here rewriting what it means to be single — one post at a time.